Where Did The Spark Go? – EP 224
OFten as the relationship contiues the passion appears to fade away. Why does the spark of passion go away and can you actually get it back?
The Relaxed Male is a podcast dedicated to empowering men to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. Whether it’s romantic partnerships, family bonds, friendships, or professional connections, this show provides insights and actionable advice for building and maintaining positive relationships grounded in mutual understanding, respect, and care.
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In relationships, we often will slide into a form of comfort routine that is called the Roommate Syndrome
The Roommate Syndrome Where sparks go to smolder.
Why does this happen?
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How to rekindle the spark
Know what the roommate syndrome is about.
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Summary
Here is a detailed summary of the key points from this podcast episode:
The episode discusses the “roommate syndrome” that can happen in marriages, where the spark and passion fades over time. The host, Brian, explains that this happens because of our unintentional thoughts and mindsets over the course of a long-term relationship.
He notes that as couples get older, their sexual frequency and intensity naturally declines compared to when they were younger. This can lead to feelings of disconnection and the “roommate syndrome” setting in, where the relationship feels more like living with a roommate than an intimate partner.
The host explains that this happens for a few key reasons:
The host emphasizes the importance of open communication between partners to find solutions. This may involve compromises, exploring new ways of being intimate, and rediscovering the playfulness the couple had early in the relationship. He encourages men to focus on becoming the best version of themselves, which can reignite their wife’s interest.
Overall, the episode highlights how the “roommate syndrome” is a common issue, but one that can be overcome through intentional effort, communication, and rediscovering the fun and silliness that used to characterize the relationship.
OFten as the relationship contiues the passion appears to fade away. Why does the spark of passion go away and can you actually get it back?
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