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The Relaxed Male


Apr 28, 2022

Now there are many different types of relationships around. Many work and more don't. Wanted to examine one relationship "Style" that is being talked about and the Nice guy thinks he will like it, yet the woman will become miserable. That style is the Female Led Relationship

Thanks, to the Woke wave of Feminism you are seeing women we are wanting to change the family dynamic. Why? well, they are entering into relationships with the mindset that men are the scourge of society and that the traditional roles are the root of all suffering. Yet their suffering is created by their own actions and choosing the wrong partner.

So you have a victim who is wanting to have control and thanks to the nice guys in society they are getting it believing they are going to get a free ride. They don't have to make any of the hard decisions. They don't have to worry about the accounting. They can just be comfortable and not have to worry about anybody getting upset because they won't be at fault. Sounds like a man's paradise right? No this is a man's nightmare along with it reinforcing the stereotype that men don't do anything

What is a Woman-Led Relationship

There are levels of the female-led relationship

According to Momjunction.com, there are 4 different levels of Female-led relationships.

Low Leveled Female Control

the woman has low authority, and all the decisions are taken mutually by the man and the woman. The man allows his partner to take the lead in specific scenarios and, sometimes, she needs the permission of the man to make a decision.

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Moderate Level of Female Control

the female can enjoy being a leader for a while and has a sense of ruling the man. It helps boost her confidence and morale and makes the relationship more positive. The man also often enjoys the dominant attitude of the woman. At this level, the woman usually takes the day-to-day decisions, but she also sets boundaries regarding how far she is willing to go.

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Defined Control

In this type of female-led relationship, the woman makes most decisions and takes on the male roles too. The areas where she can be dominant are defined to ensure there is a demarcation.

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Extreme Control

Here there is extreme control by the woman and servitude by the man. This relationship is for women who like to have the ultimate power in the relationship.

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There are Rules too

  • The female makes most of the household decisions. The man shares his opinion before a decision is made, and the woman may value it.
  • The woman can help motivate the man to work on getting rid of any bad habits like excessive smoking or dependence on alcohol by being authoritative.
  • Although the man and woman distribute household tasks, the man agrees to do chores like cooking, cleaning, etc.
  • The woman takes most financial decisions, and the man trusts his wife to take care of things.
  • The woman also takes decisions regarding social events and social gatherings.

Why would anyone like this?

Because according to Liveboldandbloom.com women offer unique qualities

  • Compassion and empathy
  • Sensitivity
  • Resilience in the face of adversity
  • A nurturing attitude
  • Intuition
  • Emotional self-awareness
  • Persuasiveness
  • Inclusiveness

Lemetropolelille.com also has some points it would like to add

  • Women are more likely to communicate, thus creating an atmosphere of openness.
  • This usually leads to fewer disagreements when the male consciously steps back from the leadership role.
  • Both partners become more attentive.
  • Both partners feel freer to express their feelings.
  • When women are pleased in their relationships, they would be more willing to give in to the man’s requests. This satisfaction often translates to better action in the bedroom.
  • There is a clear division or even sharing of responsibilities, as women are more likely to acknowledge the need for variations.
  • The relationship is not tied down solely by children and gender roles. It is carried by mutual respect. It is even initiated by respect, coming from the male who gave up his natural role to humble himself to a woman he loves.

As you read this and other articles stating the benefits of a female-led relationship you will see how they paint the scenario as it becoming a better relationship. The man is happier and things flow so much better. Yet this is far from the case. This is one reason so many women are divorcing. They sense that there is a lack in the relationship and cant explain it. Then they come across a more masculine man and suddenly they are more enamored with him. This leaves the submissive nice guy sitting in the ruins of his relationship wondering why she left. This often causes men to turn to the Red pill movement or MGTOW. VIctim-oriented relationships lead to creating more victims.

The Traditional Relationship

The issue here is that the feminists don't see how the traditional means of relationships are actually allowed for the growth and improvement of both parties involved.

First women do have power.

Now if we rewind back to the 70s and 80s My grandfather was a mountain of a man. I don't remember how tall he was but he was a big man barrel-chested and with a deep growl of a voice. The marriage to my grandmother was one of care and gentleness. He was also viewed by many in town to be a bit of an asshole. So my Grandad was a complex person, just as everybody else is.

The feminists would think that my grandmother didn't have any power. She was a slave to his words and whims. Yet my grandmother had her own set of power over her domain, that house. She ruled that roost with just an iron fist as my grandad had over his domain. Grandad didn't set foot on her floors if she just mopped them. He was respectful to her and she to him. He did the finances and she took care of their 5 kids.

They didn't approach their relationship with a victim mindset. They had a relationship of mutual respect. Did they argue and fit? I don't know I would assume so but I never witnessed it.

Changing the circumstance isn't going to change your thoughts

If you think you have to control another person to be happy then you are going to be in a world of hurt. If you think you are going to be able to just sit back and chill because you have abdicated your responsibilities to the other person? You have another thing coming. When two people are supposed to work together and one person is just loafing around guess what's going to happen. Resentment is going to build.

You have to have good communication skills but you also have to do the thought work. Understand why you think you are not being fulfilled. Why is your spouse not making you happy? because they cant. I have mentioned many times before that you cant make a person feel anything. What you feel is from what you think. So if you think you are a victim in a relationship. Then you are going to find all the reasons why you are a victim. If you see yourself as an equal then you are going to find all the reasons as to why you are an equal.