Tips for Overcoming Relationship Ruts and Having Greater Intimacy – Ep 222
Why does intimacy dry up the longer we are married? Shouldn’t we have more sex and closer relationships? Why do relationships require so much effort?
The Relaxed Male is a podcast dedicated to empowering men to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. Whether it’s romantic partnerships, family bonds, friendships, or professional connections, this show provides insights and actionable advice for building and maintaining positive relationships grounded in mutual understanding, respect, and care.
Each episode delves into the unique challenges and opportunities men face when it comes to fostering meaningful connections. The host Bryan assists men in understanding how the elements of how one approaches a problem can hinder relationship growth.
Through thought-provoking discussions, real-life examples, and practical exercises, listeners gain valuable tools to improve their listening skills, empathy, vulnerability and thoughts needed for building trust and intimacy with those around them.
The show also covers the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and taking responsibility for one’s actions and their impact on others. Ultimately, The Relaxed Male aims to empower men to have strong relationships without sacrificing who they are in the process. Helping men to live a fulfilling life with strong meaning ful relationships and stay out of the victim trap
So if you’re ready to level up your relationship game and cultivate deeper, more authentic connections, tune in and join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth.
Men struggle with strong meaningful connections. Many even struggle with just having a relationship. So many men today don’t have close relationships or their relationships are just surface-level connections that don’t fulfill the purpose of a relationship.
We men need relationships and yet we forsake our own needs for a plethora of reasons. So why do we need to have good strong relationships? Why can’t we just hermitize ourselves and just be done with it?
Benefits of a good relationship
Why are relationships needed? What makes the messy emotional events of having relationships with both men and women good for us?
Live longer
This is mainly for married men but when a man has friends who force him to get out of the house and go do things. These men live longer and more fulfilled because they have a relationship with both men and women.
Men who are isolated have stronger suicide tendencies
Sadly many men do end their lives because they have isolated themselves. In fact a guy who starts to isolate needs strong relationships more than ever.
Happier
Why do men actually long for relationships.
Relationships with women
It helps them see life as an adventure
We love to care
We Love to be cared for
We do like the input from women
Men seek specifics in their relationships and often don’t find them
Relationships with other men
A means to be pushed to be better
others to learn from
A refill of their masculine energy
Men need to have a connection with those around them
Why do men not have as many friends as they could have?
Many men don’t have close friends at all
Sadly many men have stopped trying or using the internet as a cheap knockoff connection
They lost their girl’s challenge.
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Introduction
Bryan Goodwin hosts The Relaxed Male podcast, aimed at helping men remove the “nice guy” mindset and live life on their own terms. This episode (#221) focuses on the importance of relationships for men. Why Relationships are Important for Men
Men struggle with relationships – romantic partners, family, friends, coworkers etc. Some men avoid relationships altogether through movements like “men going their own way.” However, strong relationships provide several key benefits for men: Longevity Married men tend to live longer than single men, especially if the marriage is a strong, connected one. When a wife passes away, the widowed husband often dies soon after of “a broken heart.” Lower Suicide Risk Men with solid relationships have lower tendencies towards suicide compared to isolated men. Friends will notice if a man starts withdrawing and pull him back out. Happiness Overall, married men report being happier than single men. Having masculine friendships pushes men to get out, try new activities and adventures they wouldn’t alone. Benefits Men Seek in Relationships
Words of affirmation/praise Respect Connection/security Physical touch (both platonic and romantic) Men are often the “romantics” craving spice from their wives Importance of Male Friendships
Allow men to be their full, uninhibited selves Provide positive masculine energy that balances feminine energy from romantic partners Men learn from each other and push each other to grow Having a tight community of male friends is crucial Challenges to Building/Maintaining Friendships
Many men lack close friendships – estimates of 15% having no close friends Online friendships are not a full substitute for in-person connection Romantic partners sometimes pressure men to drop male friends Men must be willing to stand up to this “test” from partners to keep respected friendships Bryan’s Plug for Coaching Services
For men wanting to improve their relationships (romantic or platonic) 3-month coaching package to change perspectives on relationships Connect with Bryan through the website to take advantage of a discounted offer Overall, the episode argues that all kinds of relationships – romantic, family, friendships – are vital for men’s mental health, life satisfaction, personal growth, and even longevity. Building a strong community of male friends is particularly emphasized.
( 00:00 ) Introduction to The Relaxed Male ( 00:32 ) The Importance of Relationships ( 06:48 ) Benefits of Strong Relationships ( 11:22 ) Specific Benefits for Men ( 18:29 ) The Importance of Male Friendships ( 24:05 ) The Role of Community in Men’s Lives
Why does intimacy dry up the longer we are married? Shouldn’t we have more sex and closer relationships? Why do relationships require so much effort?
Why do men need strong relationships with both men and women in their lives? WHy are men pulling away from relationships more than ever?
WHen young we wanted to get something for just showing up and now as adults we often want to get the same thing. We just showed up for work give me a prize.
We want pleasure in our lives. Yet, WE try to avoid pain to get to there and that simply wont work. You can not avoid pain to arrive at pleasure.
Young men need to be handed a standard as much as young women. SOciety has lead our youth off the path way too many times. Here is a starting place for all men.
Diverging from talking to men today and turning the attention to the women who are seeking good men to have a strong relationship with.
How do you communicate with your wife effectively? How can you be heard and she beheard too? There are some rules to talking that can help with that.
many men struggle with what they see as a flaw in themselves. WHat if these flaws aren’t shameful what if they are what makes you, YOU!
We also always display our emotions to other people. Sometimes they are softly displayed and others are Loudly displayed. How do you interpret these feelings?
You can see how the fall of dads in the house is increasing the number of anxious neurotics in society. Dad’s are an cornerstone for a healthy child heres how.
What can you expect when youa re doing your own 7 day fast? The Host just finished his fast and he shares his experiance.
we often use “buffering” behaviors and thoughts to avoid discomfort, failure, or uncertainty. Some key buffering behaviors he mentions are using alcohol, shopping, video games, porn etc. He encourages listeners to let go of limiting stories from their past, stop playing small, and take action to create the life they want.
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Investing requires risk. Many times people avoid risk because it is scary. Yet if you want to have the life you dreamed you have to invest in yourself
Families are a gathering of people with different thoughts. Are they right or are they wrong? Who knows but you can set boundaries to help.
The victim in aperson life can wreck all hopes and dreams a man has. How did I leave the victim behind? How can you do the same?
What is Overwhelm. How do you avoid becoming overwhelmed in your day to day life? The answer may surprise you.
We struggle with bouts of no motivation or the don’t wanna.
How men can let go of regrets, stop self-judgement, and realize they’re worthy of redemption and creating the life they want, despite mistakes of the past.
You are able to feel fulfilled and have energy to keep going each day. You do have to have a reason as to why you want to keep going. Can You?